Monday, August 25, 2008

Super Star

I always enjoy watching the Olympics. In the summer time, my favorite sports to watch are gymnastics, swimming, diving, and track events. I love the spirit of "doing your best" that permeates most of the contests. Just to be good enough to be able to participate in these competitions must be a huge honor. I am amazed at what their bodies can do.

I am also impressed by the number of hours that these men and women have spent practicing their sport and honing their skills. Many of the coaches seem very supportive and proud. A few nights ago I saw a woman compete in the pole vault. When everything was done, she earned a silver medal. We also saw her coach criticizing her after the event. He was nitpicking about the ways that she was not as good, as finely tuned, as the woman who won the gold medal. She had a very dejected look on her face as she turned her back and slumped away from him.

There are different effective styles of coaching, to meet the varied needs of the individual athlete. This example is absolutely the wrong way to coach. I could never have accomplished what she did, over 15 feet (if I am remembering right). People pretty universally respond better to support and acknowledgment of their efforts and strengths. Yes, when they are in training, they need some guidance to help them perfect their skill. But at the end of the competition, everyone benefits from hugs and atta-boys.

We all need encouragement and recognition for the efforts we make. Some children and adults will be good enough to compete for higher awards. Good for you! You did it! You gave it your best!

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